Blog Post

May 2019

  • By Laurie McAnaugh
  • 30 Apr, 2019
Dear Laurie,

I've been feeling a lot of stress and overwhelm. My life feels crazy and chaotic, my job and family both present many relationship challenges. I tell myself to think positive but it doesn't work. My mind is always spinning. How do I get off this hamster wheel?

Signed,
Trying to be Positive

Dear Trying to be Positive,

Regardless of who we are, our family situation or our career choices, there will always be stress. Sometimes very, very high levels of stress. We can lose jobs, we can lose friends, we can lose loved ones. These are the things that shake us to our core. Yet instead of saving our brain reserves for when we truly need it, we tend to create problems where they don't necessarily need to exist.  We do this through the stories we tell ourselves.

It's not what is happening that causes our stress. It's the story we tell ourselves about what's happening. It will always be that- and the story we tell ourselves will always be a choice.

Story shifting is the work for all of us. Much of what we do in coaching is about not only recognizing the habitual tales we allow to run automatically inside our heads but also becoming aware of who we are being while believing what we're believing.

The more aware we become, the more we shift.  The more we shift, the more peace we have the opportunity to experience.

Byron Katie, the author of A Mind at Home with Itself, discusses four questions that can free your mind. This month, consider challenging yourself with the following questions when you catch yourself feeling overwhelmed. Determine who or what you believe is causing your stress and then ask:

  1. Is that thought or story true?
  2. What is the evidence that thought or story is true?
  3. Who am I being believing this thought/story?
  4. Who would I be without the thought/story?
The last question encourages us to engage choice. No excuses. No blaming. We can choose to go high- take personal responsibility for what we allow to lead us in any given moment and change the story about the person in front of us, the situation at hand and about our own ability to create a more peaceful existence regardless of what we are facing.

"When I believe my thoughts, I suffer. When I question my thoughts, I don't suffer." Byron Katie



By Laurie McAnaugh 16 Sep, 2021
Take Care of Yourself
By Laurie McAnaugh 05 Jan, 2021
We've all heard it over and over again these past few weeks. Maybe you've even said it yourself.

"Good riddance to 2020! Don't let the door hit you on the way out! Bring on 2021!"

I get it. It was a year that brought on many challenges.
Fear. Isolation. Illness. Discord. Unprecedented uncertainty.

Here's the interesting thing though. When I challenge this "Good Riddance" mantra, every single person is able to list so many beautiful moments from the last 12 months.

I would guess that's true for you, too.

So take a moment to breathe. Deeply. Right now.
What will you take with you from 2020?
What gifts? What insights? What habits? What non-negotiables? What unexpected treasures?

What changes do you want to keep?
Instead of rushing to slam the door on this past year, decide instead to gently close it with gratitude and positive anticipation of what's to come.
It has been a year that has created openings for entire paradigm shifts within each and every one of us.
And within our world.

Some of those shifts in 2021 will be amazing. Some may continue to feel like obstacles for awhile.

But we're all on this crazy ride doing the best we can with what we've got in this moment.
Let us continue to develop our own unique personal tool belts so that when life acts all "2020" on us, we've got the reserves to be able to hold our mental health strong while still seeing the multitude of blessings everywhere.

Let us seek to better honor our own humanity and the humanity in others by letting go of the self-defeating, stress-inducing burden of judgment.  And at the same time, let us hold ourselves accountable for rising up to higher ground.  

Because 2020 has strengthened us and we really are that powerful.


By Laurie McAnaugh 22 Dec, 2020
My husband, Todd and I recently spent a week in the Berkshires of Western Massachusetts. We make it a priority to spend time there at least a few times a year. It's a quiet, peaceful part of the world filled with mountains and snow-capped beauty.

We fill our days with simplicity. Long, scenic drives through the peaks and valleys, and hikes that lead us to places we’ll never forget.

The hikes are always an adventure. There’s just something about being alone in the woods, miles from civilization, without cell service.

As we navigate unfamiliar trails, the ground beneath our feet is sometimes wet and slippery. It takes all of our concentration and agility to safely stay the course (okay, just me- my husband is annoyingly fearless and freakishly agile). Occasionally, I can forget to stop, look up, and absorb the magnificent landscape.

Deep in the woods, the world becomes so still that every noise seems to intensify. The sounds of the scurrying wild, the forceful winter breezes that push the trees to their limits. The wind causes the bare birch trunks to creak, making haunting sounds that keep us on high alert. The sounds so intense at times, you wonder when a tree might fall, and where. But we brave the path ahead, not knowing exactly what the final destination will look like and what obstacles lie ahead. We just keep going.

To be in the middle of the cold, barren, breathless beauty completely disconnected to civilization, makes these excursions feel both risky and sacred at the same time. For this naturally cautious girl (did I mention my fear of wild animals?), these isolated walks in the wild bring on a mix of conflicting feelings and emotions:

Gratitude, concern, reverence, worry, wonder, apprehension, appreciation, uncertainty, and faith.

And when we finally arrive at an enchanting waterfall, I know it was worth the effort it took to get there.

Reminds me of 2020. So much to have felt anxious about. So much to appreciate. So much isolation. Yet so many reasons to trust that good is around the corner.

So we just keep going. We brave the unknown. No matter how slippery, and treacherous the journey has been, if we remember to pause and look around, we’ll find much beauty and opportunity to embrace.

Wishing you the sacredness of simplicity this holiday season and a 2021 filled with love, connection and exciting new adventures.
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