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You Are the Key

  • By Laurie McAnaugh
  • 01 Mar, 2018

Spring is right around the corner; a time of re-birth and renewal.   An important ritual of self-evaluation and determining which of our behaviors and thought patterns serve us best and which ones do not, can be helpful.  Like a  spring cleaning for the soul! If you polled many of my coaching clients, they would tell you I'm always poking them on the importance of taking 100% responsibility for our thoughts, actions and reactions in order to reach our personal and professional best -But it's not always easy!

To quote the late philosopher, Jim Rohn, "The key to your better future is you." When we allow ourselves to think that other people, circumstances or situations are always to blame for our misfortune, unhappiness or lack of success, it renders us powerless.

And you are NEVER powerless.

We may not always be able to control what happens to us, but we have all the power we need to control how we choose to think about what happens to us.  When we take a moment to acknowledge our own responsibility in how we choose to react, resent, ruminate or regret, we are able to realize the plethora of alternative ways of thinking that serve us far better.

There is nothing more powerful than taking responsibility for how we choose to think, as it always leads to how we choose to show up in the world.  How we show up impacts everything.

During this time of recharge and renewal,  when faced with disappointment over a situation or relationship, try asking yourself the following  questions:

  • How can this situation make me a better person?
  • What can I learn from this situation/person?

I'll admit, sometimes it takes me awhile to get from a place of judgement  or bitterness to a place of true strength, but when I finally arrive, I know everyone involved is better off because it allows an immediate shift of energy on the entire situation from negative to positive.


When relationships or circumstances get challenging, as they do for us all, remind yourself of the many inspirational people you've known or read about who have battled illnesses, or lost limbs or suffered unthinkable losses, only to choose to turn around, inspire others and change the world with their attitudes of forgiveness, gratitude and GRACE.

Now that's power!

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Take Care of Yourself
By Laurie McAnaugh 05 Jan, 2021
We've all heard it over and over again these past few weeks. Maybe you've even said it yourself.

"Good riddance to 2020! Don't let the door hit you on the way out! Bring on 2021!"

I get it. It was a year that brought on many challenges.
Fear. Isolation. Illness. Discord. Unprecedented uncertainty.

Here's the interesting thing though. When I challenge this "Good Riddance" mantra, every single person is able to list so many beautiful moments from the last 12 months.

I would guess that's true for you, too.

So take a moment to breathe. Deeply. Right now.
What will you take with you from 2020?
What gifts? What insights? What habits? What non-negotiables? What unexpected treasures?

What changes do you want to keep?
Instead of rushing to slam the door on this past year, decide instead to gently close it with gratitude and positive anticipation of what's to come.
It has been a year that has created openings for entire paradigm shifts within each and every one of us.
And within our world.

Some of those shifts in 2021 will be amazing. Some may continue to feel like obstacles for awhile.

But we're all on this crazy ride doing the best we can with what we've got in this moment.
Let us continue to develop our own unique personal tool belts so that when life acts all "2020" on us, we've got the reserves to be able to hold our mental health strong while still seeing the multitude of blessings everywhere.

Let us seek to better honor our own humanity and the humanity in others by letting go of the self-defeating, stress-inducing burden of judgment.  And at the same time, let us hold ourselves accountable for rising up to higher ground.  

Because 2020 has strengthened us and we really are that powerful.


By Laurie McAnaugh 22 Dec, 2020
My husband, Todd and I recently spent a week in the Berkshires of Western Massachusetts. We make it a priority to spend time there at least a few times a year. It's a quiet, peaceful part of the world filled with mountains and snow-capped beauty.

We fill our days with simplicity. Long, scenic drives through the peaks and valleys, and hikes that lead us to places we’ll never forget.

The hikes are always an adventure. There’s just something about being alone in the woods, miles from civilization, without cell service.

As we navigate unfamiliar trails, the ground beneath our feet is sometimes wet and slippery. It takes all of our concentration and agility to safely stay the course (okay, just me- my husband is annoyingly fearless and freakishly agile). Occasionally, I can forget to stop, look up, and absorb the magnificent landscape.

Deep in the woods, the world becomes so still that every noise seems to intensify. The sounds of the scurrying wild, the forceful winter breezes that push the trees to their limits. The wind causes the bare birch trunks to creak, making haunting sounds that keep us on high alert. The sounds so intense at times, you wonder when a tree might fall, and where. But we brave the path ahead, not knowing exactly what the final destination will look like and what obstacles lie ahead. We just keep going.

To be in the middle of the cold, barren, breathless beauty completely disconnected to civilization, makes these excursions feel both risky and sacred at the same time. For this naturally cautious girl (did I mention my fear of wild animals?), these isolated walks in the wild bring on a mix of conflicting feelings and emotions:

Gratitude, concern, reverence, worry, wonder, apprehension, appreciation, uncertainty, and faith.

And when we finally arrive at an enchanting waterfall, I know it was worth the effort it took to get there.

Reminds me of 2020. So much to have felt anxious about. So much to appreciate. So much isolation. Yet so many reasons to trust that good is around the corner.

So we just keep going. We brave the unknown. No matter how slippery, and treacherous the journey has been, if we remember to pause and look around, we’ll find much beauty and opportunity to embrace.

Wishing you the sacredness of simplicity this holiday season and a 2021 filled with love, connection and exciting new adventures.
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